Non Drug Treatment of Premature Ejaculation

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There are only a few broad methods of treating premature ejaculation without the help of drugs:

Pubococcygeus muscle exercises

Sexual responsivity training

Reducing sensitivity of the penis to sexual stimulation

I've reviewed some internet based methods of treating premature ejaculation and found that them to be basically a series of pubococcygeus muscle training exercises. I don't believe that these exercise work: I've tried them myself and found it impossible to develop the muscle so it was strong enough to clamp down hard enough during sex to prevent ejaculation. In fact I think the philosophy behind these exercises is misguided, because there is conflicting evidence that this practice prevents ejaculation - some authorities say that it actually speeds up ejaculation by increasing sexual arousal. In any event, when I tried it, I found that I was unable to hold my ejaculation in and the effort of trying actually ruined the whole thing anyway! What I got was a feeble spurt with minimal sensation, and in addition I was completely distracted from being in the moment with my partner and therefore I wasn't actually able to enjoy our sexual connection!

I can't say that these methods won't work for you - but what I can tell you is that they did not work for me, and I don't know any man for whom they have worked. The effort and dedication, not to mention the physical effort involved in training the PC muscle is so great that I think very few men would be able to use this method either in theory or practice.

Sexual responsivity training is the broad heading of a group of exercises which are used by professional sex therapists to help men get complete control over their ejaculatory response. In brief, the accepted wisdom is that men who have a tendency to rapid ejaculation are over-sensitive to sexual stimulation and get aroused far too quickly, either in their mind or their body or both. For sex to progress naturally and correctly, a man must be able to reach high arousal at a pace which broadly matches that of his partner - or, he must at least be able to maintain his arousal at a high level without fear of coming too quickly. That will let his female partner take her time on her own arousal curve; and while he may have an erection and he may be aroused, he is not so aroused that he is likely to ejaculate before or shortly after he finally enters her with his penis. 

You may be wondering how a man who currently ejaculates too quickly because he gets too aroused too fast can possibly slow down his progress towards orgasm. The answer is that he starts by learning a simple series of exercises which train him to be aware of his body's state of arousal; once he knows how near to orgasm he is, he can use a few simple and effective techniques which prevent him becoming more aroused, thereby allowing him to go on enjoying sex at that level of arousal until he chooses to ejaculate. This he can do by by thrusting harder and faster and allowing his arousal to rapidly escalate until he enjoys a powerful orgasm.