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How do you choose a premature ejaculation remedy?

Get the right techniques and methods to prevent and stop premature ejaculation for you.

Just in case there are any men out there who don't know the facts about premature ejaculation: it is usually due to your body getting too aroused too quickly, without you realizing it, as you make love. Then the transition between high arousal and ejaculation happens all too suddenly. It's not about being angry with your partner, or about not loving your partner, or that you are a selfish lover. In fact, most men who come too soon are actually very loving and care a great deal about their partner's happiness.

There is plenty of scientific research on the internet which you can read if you'd like to do so. For example, at the moment there is a lot of work on developing drug treatments for rapid ejaculation (as the condition is sometimes known). And this is an interesting article on how you define the condition - for example, if neither a man nor his partner are bothered about the fact that he comes too quickly, then does he have premature ejaculation? It's an interesting point, and if a couple really don't care about how long vaginal intercourse lasts, then you might expect the problem to be self-correcting, at least if one of the contributory factors is the anxiety that ejaculating too quickly actually causes.

In case that last point is a bit obscure, let me explain. When you have sex, you get aroused - that is to say, your nervous system gets more active, more agitated: the same thing happens when you get anxious. Therefore, the more anxious you feel, the more your body is aroused, and the faster you are likely to ejaculate. Equally, the less anxious you are, the more control you are likely to have over your ejaculation. You see how men can get into a negative vicious cycle: more anxiety means faster ejaculation means more anxiety means faster ejaculation.....

So what about cures? Being relaxed and confident is a great start. And the best way for that to happen is for a man to enjoy intercourse with a long standing partner, who is loving and reassuring, and genuinely wants to work towards longer lasting sex with her partner. But even without that, there are things you can do to work towards greater control. The whole basis of ejaculatory control is about becoming more aware of your body and the signals that it gives you as you move towards ejaculation. To recognize these signals allows you to slow the pace of sex and let your arousal drop...and, yes, of course that takes discipline, in that you have to stop thrusting if you are making love, at least for a little while, but how much better that is than simply thrusting without much awareness of how aroused you are and then coming too soon.....perhaps just as your partner is beginning to get sexually excited.

So here is some guidance to selecting the right cure:

First of all, I want to tell you that I know how PE feels - I suffered (if that is the right word) premature ejaculation for a long time, and I eventually cured it using the methods I learned when I trained as a professional sex therapist. To share this knowledge with other men, I then wrote a whole treatment course which is designed to help all men who just don't last long enough. You can read about it here.

Second, I don't recommend drug treatments. They don't really get to the heart of the problem, even though they may give you some short term relief. In any case case, these are actually anti-depressants, and even if they happen to delay ejaculation, you're still interfering with your normal brain function. That isn't such a good idea, I think. But if you want more information, get it here.

Third, you may find self-hypnosis helpful. It can certainly relax you. If you'd like to investigate it, try Victoria Mizzell's self hypnosis CD's. Get all the information you need at Victoria's website.